Should I go

Hi Everyone
I was wondering if you all think it would be a good idea for me to go a check up with my honey. He has a pm for 2 years now and I am not sure when his next check up is but would it be wise to go so I could see and hear what happens. We have not talked about it yet I was feeling you out first to see if I should ask or not. I have never been before but I feel that I need to be more proactive and supportive with this. I just was wondering....

God Bless
Betty Jo

4 Comments

Go With Him

by BOB 1 - 2008-09-19 03:09:28

Go with him. That is a strange world (I don't mean it is unpleasant) to me and I've been in for checkups 20 plus times. In my case I'm lying about half-prone with a magnet on my pacemaker which made my heart rate change when it was placed there. The people, or person, doing my checkup do not talk to me and since they are constantly double clicking on something on a computer. I don't like to disturb them while they are at work, since it is my heart they are messing with. I've been alone and had my wife along whenever she feels up to it, and I always appreciate her company very much. I'm sure your significant other will appreciate having you along.

Offer to go

by Tracey_E - 2008-09-19 05:09:37

Proactive is good but leave the control in his hands. Make the offer, but it's up to him if he's ok with it. He could see it as comfort and support or an intrusion. It's always a good idea for a second person to have a an understanding what's going on and for two sets of ears to hear what they tell you.

Me, I'm the opposite of Bob and CabgPatch- my husband drives me nuts and I always go myself. He's a worrier, I am not. When I was in the hospital once they offered me valium when my surgery was delayed. I said no thanks, but could they puh-lease give it to him, lol. His stressing stresses me more than my health. So, I don't take him with me.

I like it when my husband goes

by Gonnie - 2008-09-19 10:09:58

but he hasn't been the last couple of times. All we've been doing is med adjustments lately (Had the implant 8 weeks ago) so there probably isn't much point in him taking time off from work. He will go with me when they check the settings in December because I will insist! He hasn't asked any questions of the Doc when he's gone but he's all ears & I appreciate that because I don't always absorb everything & find that he catches things I don't. This is quite a life changing event & we've been together for 39 years this month. There is no one I'd rather have by my side!

Hello

by pacergirl - 2008-09-20 10:09:51

I have not had my hubby go to an appointment with me since I got the PM. It is something I thought I could take care of by myself.
Well, things have changed. I always have a lot of questions but like some of the others I lay there on the table quiet because when we speak it changes something in the computer and has an effect on the HR. So I am polite and quiet. I don't get to ask questions. I feel intimidated. Last week I asked my hubby if he would be open to going to my check up with me. He jumped at the chance, he said he was just waiting for me to invite him! He asked me to write out a list out of the questions I need answered and then he would add some of his own. I can hardly wait for my next appointment. My Hubby is a retired military man and there are very few people in this world that can intimidate him. I am in my last year of battery life so we have lots of questions.
So, ask your mate how they feel about you going to the check ups... you might be surprised at the response. :) I certainly was.
Best of luck to you,
Pacergirl and her hubby.

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